How To Feel Better About Yourself No Matter What
There are alot of things you can feel bad about. Life is full of setbacks, unforseen circumstances and other situations that can bring you down.
Thankfully, there are also alot of things that will make you feel better about yourself. Yet sometimes, this seems very hard. You’re not where you want to be, you’re not living the life you have envisioned for yourself when you were younger.
I’ve been there personally. I’ve felt really bad about myself several times in my own life. Especially during the infamous teenage years. But then again, who hasn’t, right?
So if you’re here because you thought I want to feel better about myself, you’ve come to the right place.
Below are some tips and tricks you can apply to feel better about yourself, starting today.
1. Look Back At How Far You’ve Come
If you’re like me, you sometimes feel overwhelmed by the amount of tasks to be completed, the amount of things to be done and achieved. There is so much to be done, that it seems like it’s a never-ending story and you’ll never accomplish what you’re trying to.
Finish one task, and the next task is just around the corner. You’re practically never finished, and this hinders you from feeling satisfied with a job well done.
Have you ever taken the time to look back at how far you’ve actually come up until now?
Lets say you’re trying to start your own (online) business. The last 1-2 years you’ve been fully engaged in trying to find out everything there is to know about starting your own (online) business. (Secret: there is an unlimited amount of information on this).
Day in, day out you’re ploughing through the hoards of articles, books and advice to be found on the internet. Also, your surroundings may have something to say about your journey to building your own (online) business. Not to forget, you also have this voice in your head that’s constantly talking to you: “Do this, do that! But you could also try this, and that other method might work aswell.”
Complete overwhelm. You have no idea where to start. The only thing you know is what it could lead to.
This way, you will probably forget how far you’ve actually come. You’ve already got a good looking website up and running, you’ve got some copywriting going for you. You did an extended research on your competitors. You’ve talked to several prospects and found out some of their needs and problems.
You’ve done more than a big percentage of people, but somehow you seem to forget this. Sure, there are still many things left to do and to consider. But never forget how far you’ve come already. The development you went through, the knowledge you’ve acquired and applied.
Allow yourself to think back to have far you’ve already come. In my experience this will make you feel better about yourself. I certainly did.
2. Challenge Yourself
“I like to challenge myself. I like to learn – so I like to try new things and try to keep growing.” – David Schwimmer
Nothing will make you feel worse about yourself than standing still. Not progressing, not working towards something you feel and know is important to you.
Chances are you’ve experienced this for yourself. You got comfortable, sat back and let life pass you by. Sure, binge watching Netflix and the excellent shows they offer (I love House of Cards) is fun. And of course, you need to be able to relax and chill out from time to time.
But, then again, this will get you nowhere.
What do you like to do? Where do you want to become better at? What would you like to learn?
Are you currently doing anything with this? For instance, if you like to read about psychology: Are you currently reading a book on psychology?
You don’t have to read a book per week, reading a chapter per week is good enough. But you’re actually doing something with it. You’re progressing, even if it’s slowly. Anything above 0 is better than nothing.
Some months ago I stopped reading altogether, eventhough reading is very important to me. I just didn’t feel like reading anymore. I made myself feel bad about myself for not taking the time to read. For some reason I couldn’t motivate myself anymore to even read 1 chapter of any book.
The simple solution would have been to start reading again, 1 page at a time. But then again my mind was playing tricks on me by saying: “If it’s only 1 page you have to read, you might aswell to this tomorrow.”
Of course, the next day I didn’t read 1 page. Reading was very important to me, but something was holding me back. Crazy as it may sound, I got fearful of what reading would give me. Knowing I had to do something with what I had read.
Then something shifted and clicked in my mind. The fun I got from reading returned, and now I’m back to reading again, on new terms, without pressuring myself. This instantly made me feel better about myself. I’m back to challenging myself, I’m back to progressing.
Try it for yourself, and you’ll definitely feel better about yourself.
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3. Give Yourself A Break
This might be conflicting with 2. Challenge Yourself. Pushing yourself to the maximum of your capabilities can also give you alot of stress. Which could possibly burn you out.
When you’re burned out, your body basically shuts down and prevents you from doing anything at all. You won’t be able to do anything anymore. It’s like your body is saying: “If you’re not giving yourself a break, I will FORCE you to take a break.”
This so called break is longer than the everyday break you should give yourself. Burn out breaks vary between 3 months to several years!
This is nothing in comparison to taking an hour of your daily time to simply relax, and let your the stress flow out of your system.
The key here is acknowledge the fact that you’ve already taken the time to get things done and to acknowledge that there is always still tomorrow to continue.
Rome wasn’t built in a day, and chances are that whatever you’re trying to accomplish will also take longer than a day.
Give yourself a break. Work on whatever is important to you, but keep track of your stress level. Don’t burn yourself out. Feel good about yourself doing the work and showing up, but don’t allow your body to forcefully take you out of the game.
Key Takeaways Of This Article
- Take the time to think back how far you’ve come. Be grateful for what you’ve accomplished thus far.
- Keep challenging yourself. Any progression is better than no progression at all.
- Give yourself a break from time to time. Do the work and show up, but don’t overdo it. Taking an hour of every day just to relax and do something that isn’t mentally challenging you, will prevent you from burning out.
#1 Action Step
- Take some time now, or later today, to make a small list of everything you’ve accomplished up to today. To go back to the building your own (online) business example: write down in broad terms what you’ve learned, what you’ve done and implemented up to now. You’ll be surprised as to have far you’ve come and how much you have actually accomplished. Sure, there is still so much potential growth, but you have to start somewhere.
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